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Thoughts to Contemplate by Dr. Luann Robinson Hull


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Maximize Your Happiness Potential

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“…The desire for happiness is essential to man. It is the motivator of all our acts. The most venerable, clearly understood, enlightened, and reliable constant in the world is not only that we want to be happy, but that we want only to be so.”—Matthieu Ricard

There is an endless supply of resources on how to follow the yellow brick road to happiness. And in recent years, the scientific community has jumped on board fortifying us with impressive data providing empirical evidence to show that we as a species have been hardwired to operate from a foundation of happiness and well-being (Happily Ever After…Right Now, prologue xxx). All we have to do to create that possibility for ourselves is to to focus on training the area of our brain already blueprinted to strengthen our happiness potential. This region is called the Anterior Cingulate Cortex (ACC). It governs thinking and emotion and also has been shown to support us in having more empathic responses, which evoke feelings of loving compassion, heightened social awareness, and increased sensitivity to the moment.

The ACC’s job is to utilize a specific neuron unique to humans. This neuron is stimulated to increase in supply when a positive or neutral response eclipses a negative reaction to an emotional trigger —even if it is just taking a breath or two. The stock continues to multiply with every nanosecond you choose not to fight (or flee). As these “happy,” calming neurons develop momentum they can eventually provide enough gusto to balance out the effect of the unruly cascade of neurochemicals designed for your survival, originating from a different region in your head. As this development is unfolding, your brain states are being altered by a process called neuroplasticity. Therefore, you can run your own programs rather than having your programs run you. It just takes some determination. And, your rising band of will power, will definitely support you in the process of this peace-making between the back (reptile) and the front (reason) of your head.

We are fundamentally primates with an endless supply of distractions and possible triggers. We will lose the keys, forget people’s names, and falsely perceive situations by making assumptions based on our emotional sensitivity, all of which is repeatedly re-enforced by any current triggers. Science now demonstrates that until we decide to clear the festering wounds of yesteryear by being available to resolve and balance whatever is out of whack right now, this dilemma will persist.

We are each likely a product of survival strategies, which hide out in our unconscious psyche. These habituated ways of coping most always originate from woundedness—something hurt us and we developed tactics to protect ourselves from future, similar pain. Conditioned beliefs, actually begin to form patterns of behavior that take root in our subconscious data-bank, where ninety-five percent of our actions, words, and deeds live (according to Bruce Lipton, Cellular Biologist). Until it is held in check, this subterranean belief system will repeatedly distort your reality through the lens of fear and insufficiency because it “thinks” it has to do this in order to keep you alive.

“All the greatest and most important problems of life are fundamentally insoluble…They can never be solved, but only outgrown. This outgrowing proved on further investigation to require a new level of consciousness. Some higher or wider interest appeared on the person’s horizon, and through this broadening of his or her outlook the insoluble problem lost its urgency. It was not solved logically in its own terms but faded when confronted with a new and stronger life urge”—Carl Gustov Jung.

And so how can we upgrade our operating system to a “broadened outlook” where seemingly “insoluble problems” and life dramas will “lose their urgency?” Abraham Maslow, famed humanistic psychologist, referred to this state of expanded consciousness, as “self-actualization” where we are operating on all cylinders, fortified by the stronger life urge that strengthens our most optimal potential (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-actualization).

Of course, in order to fully support this “life urge” you have to be willing to keep unraveling the complicated system that responds to your upsets. Therefore, when you are triggered by a high intensity event, it is vital that you get some distance between you and what happened before your conscious mind is hijacked by the limbic system, “whose” agenda it is to repeatedly override your ability to reason. By strengthening your consciousness, you are countering your deeply entrenched conditioning to survive. You are programming your brain to recognize that the defensiveness, which your initial reaction will evoke, is likely going to cause the very harm you are trying to prevent. Here is an example:

You are at a traffic light turning left. You are late to an appointment. You have patiently awaited your turn. The moment has arrived. You make your move. Out of nowhere, a little red corvette cuts in front of you. You snap and yell obscenities at the driver, only to find just following the release of your expletive, that the one behind the wheel is your boss.

Admittedly, stopping to take a breath under such circumstances is not easy work, though clearly it would have been the better choice in this scenario. It is now being proven scientifically that your conscious choices will not only improve your interactions with others, but will also liberate your biology to such a degree that you can eventually emancipate yourself from suffering altogether.

What are the tools that will support you in the process of actuating the grandest version of yourself? You can start by taking a breath the next time you are triggered, and then another. If you do not already have a practice, consider beginning some type of formal meditation (mental focus). Here is a link to support you in getting started: http://zenhabits.net/meditation-for-beginners-20-practical-tips-for-quieting-the-mind/ . In addition, please find more information here on the effects of meditation regarding the anterior cingulate cortex.

http://www.wakehealth.edu/News-Releases/2013/Anxious_Activate_Your_Anterior_Cingulate_Cortex_With_a_Little_Meditation.htm

Meanwhile, my esteemed colleague, Dr. Jean Watson, and I will be offering a full day workshop on in depth methods for changing your biological destiny (briefly discussed here) with specific practices. This promises to be a life changing event. Click here for more information and to register.

Hope to see you there!

Believing in you!

Luann


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Have a Little Tenderness

If you choose to have a little tenderness toward yourself, or self-love, it can be the Launch Pad to happiness in life and in love.

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HAVE A LITTLE TENDERNESS WITH SELF-LOVE: THE LAUNCH PAD

The journey of loving and being loved requires making a lifelong commitment to self-love and self-respect. Admit to yourself that you have made mistakes, celebrate your willingness to learn from these errors, and honor your desire to discover and develop your dreams. Be as tender, patient, compassionate, and kind to yourself as you would be to an aging, beloved elder or a tiny, helpless newborn. Learn to love who you are without exceptions. Regard your mistakes as opportunities (I know it sounds cliched, but it really is the only decent way to live). Remember that you have strength and stamina. Don’t allow the pitfalls to throw you off the path. Avoid putting too much emphasis on perceived shortcomings or attributes. If you wallow in either one too long, you will miss the guideposts that have the potential to broaden your exploration. Above all, have a grateful heart for every single event, person, place, or circumstance that has brought you to this very moment.

Love,

Luann

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I’ll Be in Boulder, CO on April 11th — I’d love for you to join me…

I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Conscious Leadership in Healthcare: How Caring for Others Begins With Emotional Intelligence and Self-Care with my friend and colleague Tara Sheahan,  who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium here, if you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1.

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I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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Excerpts from page 255-256 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!”

GRATITUDE: 

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Peace Is the Way

The way to peace is to notice that peace is the way (Chopra, 2005).

Peace Is the Way

And this way to peace is quite simple, although it can seem otherwise. You do not have to make the experience of accessing peace difficult or tedious. Your consciousness is already ripe for a shift to take place in you — one where (when complete) you will always be operating from this peace of yours, which has heretofore seemed so cleverly to evade you. How do I know about this ripened state that is unfolding in you? Because you would not be attracted to this material if you weren’t ready for change.

Most of us are weary of being chained to the pain and pleasure cycle. Of course we believe our captor to be merciless at times. Actually, we have always had the power to release ourselves from this unfortunate pest. Remember our friend Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz? Three clicks of her ruby red slippers and, poof — she was home! Just like Dorothy, we already have the formula to be taken immediately “home” to peace. We don’t have to go looking for it. It’s just that our fear-based conditioning has made it seem so complicated. So having some version of the Good Witch around to jog our memory can be quite beneficial. If we pay attention, those people, situations, events, and circumstances, replete with their reminders, are showing up. And as they do, it helps to keep remembering that peace is the way — while we are shown the way to peace.

Look for those people, situations and circumstances, and allow them to help you find your way to peace. Oh, and don’t forget to be one of them!

Love,

Luann

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COMING SOONER THAN YOU THINK:
I’ll Be in Boulder, CO on April 11th — I’d love for you to join me…

I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Conscious Leadership in Healthcare: How Caring for Others Begins With Emotional Intelligence and Self-Care with my friend and colleague Tara Sheahan,  who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium here, if you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1.

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

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Excerpts from page 255-256 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!”

GRATITUDE: 

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Letting Go

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The act of letting go is unequivocally the most effective means to end suffering.

It provides the ultimate relief from all of life’s challenges — although often is the most difficult behavior to put into practice. And yet the process of letting go is absolutely natural. We let go of our mother’s womb when we are born into this world. When we become mothers ourselves, we are definitely ready to let go of our bulging bellies and aching backs at the end of nine months. Our toddlers leap from our laps and go off to pre-school. We heave a sigh of relief in one breath and catch ourselves choking on tears in another. When our children leave home for the first time, we will experience more of the same mixture of anguish and liberation, and when they marry or go off on their own, we will again revisit the paradoxical feeling that is triggered by the anticipation of good-bye. This cycle will occur over and over until one of us lets go of life itself.

There really is no alternative to saying good-bye to our children at some point (and ultimately everyone we come to know and love). When the time for farewell approaches, a part of us knows that we have an opportunity to open the door to other possibilities — even while the dread of departure lurks in the shadows. If we can just be aware that this feeling of doom is connected to a signal conditioned by our ancient past, we may be able to reason with it a little. No, this good-bye does not necessarily signify the end. In fact, it could actually mean the beginning of new adventures and discoveries for everyone involved. And even if it is the final farewell, we will be given the strength to deal with that too.

I believe wholeheartedly in our ability to be strong and rise up, regardless of the good-byes we face.

Love,

Luann

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Be sure to forward this to someone you love.

I’d love to hear from you about this article! Please post a comment or leave a reply here.

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COMING SOONER THAN YOU THINK:
I’ll Be in Boulder, CO on April 11th — I’d love for you to join me…

I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Conscious Leadership in Healthcare: How Caring for Others Begins With Emotional Intelligence and Self-Care with my friend and colleague Tara Sheahan,  who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium here, if you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1.

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

————–

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

FOLLOW ME:

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Twitter     FB        Videos    Google +

Happily Ever After is now on Google Plus! Please add us!

Contact me by visiting my websites: Luann Robinson Hull and Happily Ever After Right Now

Excerpts from page 131-132 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!”

GRATITUDE: 

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

Image credit: http://realmoney.areavoices.com/2012/01/24/letting-go/