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Thoughts to Contemplate by Dr. Luann Robinson Hull


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Have a Little Tenderness

If you choose to have a little tenderness toward yourself, or self-love, it can be the Launch Pad to happiness in life and in love.

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HAVE A LITTLE TENDERNESS WITH SELF-LOVE: THE LAUNCH PAD

The journey of loving and being loved requires making a lifelong commitment to self-love and self-respect. Admit to yourself that you have made mistakes, celebrate your willingness to learn from these errors, and honor your desire to discover and develop your dreams. Be as tender, patient, compassionate, and kind to yourself as you would be to an aging, beloved elder or a tiny, helpless newborn. Learn to love who you are without exceptions. Regard your mistakes as opportunities (I know it sounds cliched, but it really is the only decent way to live). Remember that you have strength and stamina. Don’t allow the pitfalls to throw you off the path. Avoid putting too much emphasis on perceived shortcomings or attributes. If you wallow in either one too long, you will miss the guideposts that have the potential to broaden your exploration. Above all, have a grateful heart for every single event, person, place, or circumstance that has brought you to this very moment.

Love,

Luann

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NEXT WEEK!
I’ll Be in Boulder, CO on April 11th — I’d love for you to join me…

I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Conscious Leadership in Healthcare: How Caring for Others Begins With Emotional Intelligence and Self-Care with my friend and colleague Tara Sheahan,  who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium here, if you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1.

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Excerpts from page 255-256 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!”

GRATITUDE: 

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

Image Credit: http://journeybeyonddivorce.com/divorce-support-resources/self-love-exercise/

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Peace Is the Way

The way to peace is to notice that peace is the way (Chopra, 2005).

Peace Is the Way

And this way to peace is quite simple, although it can seem otherwise. You do not have to make the experience of accessing peace difficult or tedious. Your consciousness is already ripe for a shift to take place in you — one where (when complete) you will always be operating from this peace of yours, which has heretofore seemed so cleverly to evade you. How do I know about this ripened state that is unfolding in you? Because you would not be attracted to this material if you weren’t ready for change.

Most of us are weary of being chained to the pain and pleasure cycle. Of course we believe our captor to be merciless at times. Actually, we have always had the power to release ourselves from this unfortunate pest. Remember our friend Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz? Three clicks of her ruby red slippers and, poof — she was home! Just like Dorothy, we already have the formula to be taken immediately “home” to peace. We don’t have to go looking for it. It’s just that our fear-based conditioning has made it seem so complicated. So having some version of the Good Witch around to jog our memory can be quite beneficial. If we pay attention, those people, situations, events, and circumstances, replete with their reminders, are showing up. And as they do, it helps to keep remembering that peace is the way — while we are shown the way to peace.

Look for those people, situations and circumstances, and allow them to help you find your way to peace. Oh, and don’t forget to be one of them!

Love,

Luann

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COMING SOONER THAN YOU THINK:
I’ll Be in Boulder, CO on April 11th — I’d love for you to join me…

I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Conscious Leadership in Healthcare: How Caring for Others Begins With Emotional Intelligence and Self-Care with my friend and colleague Tara Sheahan,  who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium here, if you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1.

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

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Excerpts from page 255-256 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!”

GRATITUDE: 

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

Image credit: http://aprilramee.com/2013/02/peace/


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Letting Go

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The act of letting go is unequivocally the most effective means to end suffering.

It provides the ultimate relief from all of life’s challenges — although often is the most difficult behavior to put into practice. And yet the process of letting go is absolutely natural. We let go of our mother’s womb when we are born into this world. When we become mothers ourselves, we are definitely ready to let go of our bulging bellies and aching backs at the end of nine months. Our toddlers leap from our laps and go off to pre-school. We heave a sigh of relief in one breath and catch ourselves choking on tears in another. When our children leave home for the first time, we will experience more of the same mixture of anguish and liberation, and when they marry or go off on their own, we will again revisit the paradoxical feeling that is triggered by the anticipation of good-bye. This cycle will occur over and over until one of us lets go of life itself.

There really is no alternative to saying good-bye to our children at some point (and ultimately everyone we come to know and love). When the time for farewell approaches, a part of us knows that we have an opportunity to open the door to other possibilities — even while the dread of departure lurks in the shadows. If we can just be aware that this feeling of doom is connected to a signal conditioned by our ancient past, we may be able to reason with it a little. No, this good-bye does not necessarily signify the end. In fact, it could actually mean the beginning of new adventures and discoveries for everyone involved. And even if it is the final farewell, we will be given the strength to deal with that too.

I believe wholeheartedly in our ability to be strong and rise up, regardless of the good-byes we face.

Love,

Luann

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Be sure to forward this to someone you love.

I’d love to hear from you about this article! Please post a comment or leave a reply here.

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COMING SOONER THAN YOU THINK:
I’ll Be in Boulder, CO on April 11th — I’d love for you to join me…

I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Conscious Leadership in Healthcare: How Caring for Others Begins With Emotional Intelligence and Self-Care with my friend and colleague Tara Sheahan,  who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium here, if you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1.

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

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Contact me by visiting my websites: Luann Robinson Hull and Happily Ever After Right Now

Excerpts from page 131-132 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!”

GRATITUDE: 

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

Image credit: http://realmoney.areavoices.com/2012/01/24/letting-go/


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Watch Your Words

The 5th and final step in our series on New Year, New View, New Perspective, is: “Watch Your Words”

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In the following vignette, we are coming from the female perspective, though clearly the genders can be flipped to fit any scenario/dialogue where the example below could be useful.

“Do not cause harm by your words, actions, and deeds. Make certain there are no hidden agendas in what you are presenting. Look at the facts from a place of observation instead of judgment and state them clearly. 

Do say, “I noticed that when you were an hour late for dinner it seemed to really bother me. Can you help me understand what caused your delay? How can we communicate more clearly next time? I am willing to be more adaptable, but in order for that to happen, I will need more information.”

Don’t say, “I was extremely disappointed when you were so late for dinner. I had worked really hard to make it a nice evening for us and now everything is ruined because of your insensitivity and lack of caring about my feelings.”

The first scenario simply relates the facts without judgment. It also shows that the speaker has respect for both parties and that she takes responsibility for her feelings/reactions. The second situation is full of complaints, projections, and attempts to make him feel guilty. It also includes a judgment that he doesn’t care about you or the relationship. Can you see how quickly he will lose interest in listening to you when all you are doing is building a case against him? Begin with facts and declarative statements. “You are late.” “I am upset.” If he starts to defend himself and his behavior, stop him by encouraging him to stick to the facts as well. Assure him that your intention is to avoid judgment. Invite his cooperation by doing the same”—Happily Ever After…Right Now, pp. 118-119

It is so easy to react when we feel betrayed, and much more difficult to step back and wait before we speak or react. The next time you are triggered, see if you can stop, take a breath (or two), and then ask yourself what you would like to hear in the way of communication should you be the one in the hot seat.

Andrew Newberg, is an associate professor in the Dept. of Radiology and Psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania where he is also the Director of Integrated Studies of Spirituality and Neuroscience. He has done extensive research on the effects of certain emotional states on the brain. In his findings, Newberg reports that, “…Anger interrupts the functioning of your frontal lobes. Not only do you lose the ability to be rational, you lose the awareness that you are acting in an irrational way. When your frontal lobes shut down, it is impossible to listen to the other person, let alone feel empathy or compassion. Instead, you are likely to feel self-justified and self righteous. When this happens, communication falls apart.”—Andrew Newberg, How God Changes the Brain, pp.19-20

See what you can do to keep communication flowing with your significant other—particularly when you are triggered. Make note of your victories. And, be sure to tell us about them here in the comments on the blog, tweet them to me at @LuannRHull, or stop by the Happily Ever After Right Now Facebook Page, to keep all of us on the “Happily” team informed of your progress!

We believe in you!

Love,

Luann

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to announce I am now published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. It’s just in time for Valentine’s Day, and it’s titled “3 Practical Valentine’s Tips for Attracting or Enhancing Love.” Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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Please Share With Your Dallas Friends: I’ll Be In Dallas On February 16th!

On Saturday, February 16th, I’ll be speaking in Dallas at the Smart Decisions conference on “Happily Ever After Right Now…After Divorce” and will cover how people who’ve gone through divorce can experience “Happily Ever After” in the here and now, with or without Mr. or Ms. Right. If you or someone you know lives in or near Dallas, I’d love for you to join me! To purchase tickets and more information, click here. I hope to see you there!

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I’ll Be in Boulder, CO on April 11th!

I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Global Conscious Leadership & Oneness Practices with Tara Sheahan, my colleague who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium here, if you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1Early registration at a discounted price ends on February 15th for this class.

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Be sure to forward this to someone you love.

I’d love to hear from you about this article! Please post a comment or leave a reply here.

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

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Contact me by visiting my websites: Luann Robinson Hull and Happily Ever After Right Now

Excerpt taken from page 118-119 of my book, “Happily Ever After… Right Now”

Image Credit: http://faeryrealmcreations.blogspot.com/2010/08/power-o-words.html

GRATITUDE: 

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts, as well as the emails and social media possible, and come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!