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Taking Back Our Emotional Well Being

Last week we continued our discussion on “the power of emotions over happiness” and shared insights from cutting edge scientists, who are merging science and spirituality. Today I’d like to discuss how our conditioning influences our emotions and provide a simple technique on how to begin to make permanent changes in patterns of behavior that cause challenge.

Among those participating in breakthrough studies on the brain (merging science and spirituality), is Dr. Richard Davidson, Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin. “Dr. Davidson has unearthed some significant findings regarding how the emotion of happiness can be tracked in the brain. Davidson collaborated with His Holiness the Dalia Lama to study monks, who are experienced practitioners in meditation, having meditated ten thousand hours or more. These monks live in states of peace, compassion, gratitude, happiness, and well being…”(Excerpt from Happily Ever After…Right Now, pp.xxx, Prologue).

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Andrew Newberg, author of How God Changes the Brain, mentioned in last week’s post, states that, (  “…Focused attention (meditation, focused breathing, yoga, etc.) begins to build new neuronal circuits (brain patterns)…repeating a task, such as meditation or prayer, changes the synaptic activity at the end of a neuron and will eventually change the structure of the cell (forming new patterns). Such changes affect the way information is relayed to other parts of the brain.—pp. 33, How God Changes the Brain. Recall what Joseph LeDoux’s finding suggested: The struggle between thought and emotion might be resolved by a “more harmonious integration of reason (cortex) and passion (fight/flight/amygdala), and focused attention (meditation) seems to be a supporting link.

Perhaps you meditate regularly. If so, we would welcome your ideas and suggestions of what has worked for you. If you have never meditated and are interested in getting started, I encourage you to begin to practice it (simple steps below) and take note of any subtle changes that might occur in your level of stress or anxiety.  If you do, please keep us posted!

 

Suggested meditation practice for beginners this week:

Time commitment: 5-7 minutes daily (preferably upon awakening, though this can be done anywhere—even in the subway on the way to work)

Exercise:  The Breath and Focused Attention

Sit in a comfortable position. Focus on the “in” breath and the “out” breath. You could repeat the words “in” and “out” as you notice your breathing. Try not to change your normal breathing pattern.Your mind will wander. Come back to the breath. Practice this technique for five to seven minutes and try not to judge how well you believe you are doing. Meditation practice has been shown to have a cumulative effect. Just the fact that you are sitting there, committed to doing this is progress!

Next week we will continue the series with more information and meditation practice ideas. The goal: To change the chemistry of our brain, change the patterns that have allowed our reptilian brain to rule our emotions (and allowed the “fight or flight” mechanism to dominate), and to finally reach a higher (or more expanded) level of consciousness.

We can do this!

Love,

Luann

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These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to receiving the message in context and in its entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” hereAND for a few weeks only “Happily Ever After Right Now” will be available on Kindle at the very special, affordable price of $2.99. If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC for FREE and pick up your copy for only $2.99!

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Already finished reading “Happily Ever After Right Now?” I’d like to ask a very special favor. If you found the book to be informative and helpful in your journey, would you be so kind as to post a review of the book? Here is a link to my Amazon page for you to do so:  http://www.amazon.com/Luann-Robinson-Hull/e/B00AQIQ3B6/, and here is the GoodReads page for the book: http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11522606-happily-ever-after-right-now.  Thank you, from the bottom of my heart!

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GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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The Look of Real Love

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Being aware of our need to change our conditioned responses is a good start in establishing healthy patterns in relationships. But awareness alone does not cause change. Change can only occur when you make a conscious decision to do whatever it takes to go boldly toward all that will help you to first become the love of your own life, prior to searching for love in other places. You have to be able to recognize real love by first experiencing it through a conscious commitment to loving yourself. And once you do, you will know from every awakening cell in your being that you don’t need someone else to provide what you already have. Then when a potential partner appears (or is already beside you), you will see him/her as someone significant in your life who will join you in extending and opening this love of yours — outward, upward and beyond.

Make the conscious decision to truly love yourself. You can do this.

Love,

Luann

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PS) Please visit my latest article on the Huffington Post: “Finding Your Happiness Zone” and post a comment, hit the Facebook “like” and all of that!  I’d love your support there!  Thank you!

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For a few weeks only “Happily Ever After Right Now” will be available on Kindle at the very special, affordable price of $2.99. If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC and pic up your copyfor only $2.99!

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to reading them in context and in their entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

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Excerpt from page 197-198 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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It’s High Time to Reprogram Our Brains

Following up on my last article “Soul Sister (or Brother)” — In order to succeed in our quest to tune into our own heart and soul and loving ourselves, we have to be committed.

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We must be vigilant around any negative thoughts that are self directed, and turn these thoughts into loving kindness. Notice how deeply conditioned negativity is. Here is a simple example. Suppose you are in school and you just have done poorly on a test (by your standards). What is your first inclination? Is it to tell yourself how wonderful you are for even trying to do your best on the test (compassion)? Is it to find all of the ways that you have been successful in this situation (loving kindness)? Or are you more inclined to belittle and berate yourself for not measuring up, for not being good enough (self-degradation)? Unless we have been trained to the contrary, when we experience a perceived failure, we will jump to feelings of shame and disgrace almost immediately, because of our conditioning. It won’t even occur to us to look at the positive aspects of the situation. And each time we tell ourselves how wrong we are, or how miserably we have fallen short, guess what happens in our computer brain? It records and stores the data as unsuccessful and then the idea of failure gets triggered every time we think we haven’t measured up.

It’s high time for our brains to be programmed with new information. Catch yourself before you go into the dramatic negative (or if you have already slipped into that mode, wake up now and stop what you are doing). Try having a list available for referencing, either in your head or on hard copy, of all the ways that you are utterly Magnificent — even if it is how you floss your teeth. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you believe it. Just find everything possible to love about yourself. Every single person on the planet has something extraordinary to offer. And not bringing forward whatever that is, which of course, cannot be done in the absence of self-love, is the root of all misery and suffering. So, start practicing how to love yourself, bunions, warts and all.

Love,

Luann

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PS) Please visit my latest article on the Huffington Post: “Finding Your Happiness Zone” and post a comment, hit the Facebook “like” and all of that!  I’d love your support there!  Thank you!

Be sure to forward this to someone you love.

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For a few weeks only “Happily Ever After Right Now” will be available on Kindle at the very special, affordable price of $2.99. If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC and pic up your copyfor only $2.99!

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to reading them in context and in their entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

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Excerpt from page 198-199 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Celebrating Summer!

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Our alpine ice-land is finally beginning to melt after a pretty persistent winter (see the snowy peaks below).

And in the spirit of celebrating the season, I am offering the e-book version of Happily Ever After…Right Now at a special price for the summer months.

Here is what Deb Scott, host of The Best People We Know radio show said about Happily: 

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“… I wish I had this book 20 years ago. Don’t wait – get it – read it – give it – as a gift to yourself or anyone you love. I think this would be a fabulous book club read as well. A new classic. – Deb Scott

I invite you to take advantage of my SUMMER SPECIAL! Refocus your energy, learn how to be happy right now, and gain a healthy perspective abot yourself and your approach to relationships!

If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC and pic up a copy of for only $2.99 (available for a limited time)!

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Happy reading!

Love,

Luann

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I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to reading them in context and in their entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

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Excerpt from page 199-200 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Just Breathe

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Inhalation is our first autonomous act at birth, and exhalation is our final farewell as we transition from this world to the next one. As long as we are drawing breath — even if we lose everything else — we have a companion. Inhaling and exhaling is what keeps us alive. Breathing also acts as a metaphor for the cycles of life, which are to begin, end, start, finish, arrive, or leave. As we breathe in and then release that breath, we create a natural rhythm of letting go, dying to the old, and making room for the new. In exhaling, you cannot bring back the same breath that you just discharged. Think of the effort it would take to retrieve that breath, and yet so often we try. We revert to the past for the memories we want to maintain, and we look to the future for the relief that can only be accessed now. And when we turn our full attention to whatever preceded or will follow the precious present, we have forfeited our peace — because peace can only be accessed in whatever is happening here, in this moment.

My encouragement to you today is that when conflict or tension rises, breathe. The more you practice, the easier turning those situations around will become. Breathe

Our breath punctuates our lives. We take it in sharply when we are surprised. We sigh deeply when we are disappointed. And we exhale with laughter or disdain when we are amused or irritated. Our breath functions as the barometer of our inner world. It is deep and slow when we’re at peace and high and shallow when we’re not. The breath is the free and portable sorcerer’s tool that we always carry with us. Artists and writers use it to be inspired. The word “inspiration” literally means “to breathe in” (Webster, 1989, p.386).

Love,
Luann

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I’ll Be in Boulder, CO on April 11th!

I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Conscious Leadership in Healthcare: How Caring for Others Begins With Emotional Intelligence and Self-Care with my friend and colleague Tara Sheahan,  who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium here, if you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1.

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

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Excerpts from page 129-130 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!”

GRATITUDE: 

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Reprogramming Ourselves: Stepping Away From Love Addiction

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Letting go of lifelong habits involves introducing new thought forms to replace the old ones and learning how to make them stick. We all have the potential to begin our relationships from a healthy seed, but when it is neglected and left to rot, it cannot germinate and grow into its full and lasting potential. The endless cycle of “love”/loss repeats itself until or unless the participants individually and collectively become conscious of what is causing the decay.

Our addictions cannot be released until we recognize them as such — until we can admit to ourselves what we are doing and that it is a sure recipe for disaster. That is the first step. The next step is to change. Naturally, we will resist. Any transition can seem formidable (not to mention the idea of giving up an addiction), and yet the more dangerous position is to remain stuck in what does not serve our growth and expansion. Recognizing the self-defeating tendencies that result in misery and suffering is the task at hand. We can transcend these patterns. Let us die to these outdated, constricted ways of being, so that we can truly live the lives we are destined to enjoy. We owe it to ourselves and to our children to offer a new legacy of love.

When we expect someone or something to be “the answer” to all our needs, we overlook the fact that our authentic self can only emerge and be actualized through Divine access. “No thing,” person, place, or event in the external world can provide a link to our unique heavenly umbilical cord, which is the only connection to true and lasting happiness. This is an internal and blessed lifeline from which we have never been disconnected in the first place. We simply have to remember that when we are operating out of separation, we’ve forgotten our raison d’être: we were given the gift of life so that we could imagine ourselves into our unique Magnificence. We stand on the threshold of possibilities. We came here to create and bring forward something that humanity has not yet experienced. It can only happen through the vehicle that is you. Therefore, it is the individual responsibility of those of us who are willing to wake up, one by one, from our individual dream states, and deliver what we came here to share. And the awakening into truly loving and being loved starts from within.

When you are having a bad dream and believe yourself to be chased by monsters, what is the quickest solution to your plight? One way is to stop, turn and face the monster, then watch as it melts away — like when the Wicked Witch of the West disintegrated in The Wizard of Oz as Dorothy face her fears (Baum, 1993). Maybe a simpler approach is to just wake up and find yourself snuggled safely in your own bed. What will it take for us to jolt ourselves out of what we perceive to be the nightmare of our lives? We must begin by letting go of our tendencies to attach and cling, particularly to situations that are burdened with adversity and pain. Even so, it does take enormous courage to change the behaviors that have become so familiar to us. Somehow, we have convinced ourselves that the unfamiliar is more formidable than the formidable familiar.

Observing the behavior of children who are wards of the state because of abuse and/or neglect by their parents or primary caretakers provides a remarkable example of resistance to change. Frequently, if given a choice, these children would prefer to stay in environments of intolerable suffering rather than agree to be placed in a potentially loving, secure foster home. The children’s desire to choose abuse and neglect rather than to alter their environments shows how fear of the unknown influences our decisions and choices, especially when we feel threatened. We are often more freaked out by the unknown than almost anything else, including predictable patterns of abuse and neglect. Even though it seems absurd that we would prefer cruelty and mistreatment (such as in the case of “battered women”) to liberation and freedom, the fact is, that often we do. These patterns are deeply conditioned in us. And, we have the power to move beyond the paradigm of fear-based behavior.

Love,

Luann

(To read further on this subject, see my post “Waking into Your Life” as well as “Relationships: Reprogramming Ourselves as Women“)

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I’ll Be in Boulder, CO on April 11th!

I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Conscious Leadership in Healthcare: How Caring for Others Begins With Emotional Intelligence and Self-Care with my friend and colleague Tara Sheahan,  who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium here, if you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1.

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

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Excerpt from page 93-95 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!”

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GRATITUDE: 

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!


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How “Happily Ever After…Right Now” Helps Me Keep My Joy – by Veronica Cuyugan

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From the Acknowledgements to the Epilogue, this labor of love I’ve had the utmost privilege of reading has touched my life in such a profound way that I literally want to hand it out to every single woman I know. Happily Ever After…Right Now epitomizes metaphysical guidance between pages – it’s so much more than a self-help book. It’s a comprehensive review of our history; why we react the way we do to certain emotional stimuli and how we can correct ourselves so that we live in our Queen essence.

Happily…reiterated the lesson I learned long ago- that happiness does not come from a source outside of me, but rather from within, by nurturing the divine love that is my (and your) birthright.

Luann includes many how-to approaches, including exercises such as looking in the mirror three times daily and repeating “I love you,” indefinitely, along with guidelines that range from dealing with conflict in a romantic relationship (and how it can be resolved without actual conflict, but rather with introspection and understanding), to Stepping into the launchpad of your Passionate journey.

Within Happily… are countless references and quotes from metaphysical greats including Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Rumi, and others like John Lennon; all who’ve operated on the same wavelength of undeniable, abundant, universal love.

This approach to happiness inspires and lays the foundation and encouragement for internal dialogue that corrects centuries’ worth of error embedded within our DNA.

Basing our happiness upon our interactions with others is not only futile – it can, on the contrary, be damaging to our bliss and future relationships. Now is the time to seek guidance and correction. Now is the time to adjust self-speak and thinking that was once detrimental. Happily Every After exists in the present moment if you so choose to seek it.

Although I’ve finished reading the entire book, I’ve left notes and paperclips in the places I often re-visit in order to review the lessons Luann taught me (one favorite passage I’ve shared here, below). Whether I’m having a particularly “off” day and am struggling with my spiritual Regality, I feel inadequate at work, or I catch myself blaming my partner for an issue that is actually my responsibility, Happily Ever After…Right Now has proven to be one of the most valuable sources for re-setting my mindset and prompting introspection, prayer, and meditation.

Here is the excerpt I’ve selected to share with you today, from Chapter 9, pp. 171-172, this section is titled Real Love:

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“There is nothing you can do that can’t be done. There is nothing you can sing that can’t be sung. All you need is Love” — John Lennon/Paul McCartney.

Most of us have a desire to eliminate suffering in our lives. And in order to open into our full and most radiant joy, we have got to show up each day with a conscious decision to become the joy we are waiting to receive. To cultivate such an attitude requires commitment, responsibility, and discernment. A significant part of the process involves learning to distinguish the difference between happiness (peace, fulfillment) and pleasure (immediate gratification, or short lived ecstasy). And, identifying how to experience and then live our lives from a foundation of real love is a critical component of the formula for happily ever after… right now.  

What does real love feel like? How can you be sure when you are truly experiencing it? As mentioned earlier: “Real love has no lurking shadows or dark corners for it is bathed in light. It does not seek power because it is power. And it does not search for freedom because it is already free (Foundation for Inner Peace, 1985, p. 407).” In accessing this real love, which is ever available to us, we must be strictly committed to and completely firm i letting go of everything that does not mirror back to us the most expanded possibilities for our growth and ultimate freedom. 

Real love is multifaceted. To have passion for another can be fitting when kept in the proper perspective — as long as this passion is balanced with self-love, care, patience, and freedom, both for yourself and for the beloved. Freedom is one of the most important elements of real love. In order to know your beloved, you must be willing to dissolve and melt into a new way of being, in a sense, become one with him. Yet, to genuinely experience a sense of oneness with this other, you cannot seek to possess him, because he is not yours to own. You have joined him (for now), so that the two of you can become more familiar with the circular nature of love through your mutual growth and exploration.

Luann goes on to explain how through such an exploration we will come to experience a myriad of feelings: rapture, heartache, joy, defeat, devastation, patience, compassion and freedom.  She also explains various ways we may encounter these feelings.

I would like to thank Luann for allowing me the honor of profiling her at The Indie Chicks online magazine, and a special thank you to our mutual friend for making this connection possible.

-Veronica Cuyugan

RoniCVeronica is a Jane of All Trades. Passionate about healthy living – both physically and emotionally, she serves as co-founder at FittLife Enterprises while feeding her passion for empowerment at The Indie Chicks. She lives by the beach in Florida with her love and their dog and she can instantly be reached via Facebook, Twitter, or send her an email at roni@theindiechicks.com.