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Thrive

Maximize Your Happiness Potential

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“…The desire for happiness is essential to man. It is the motivator of all our acts. The most venerable, clearly understood, enlightened, and reliable constant in the world is not only that we want to be happy, but that we want only to be so.”—Matthieu Ricard

There is an endless supply of resources on how to follow the yellow brick road to happiness. And in recent years, the scientific community has jumped on board fortifying us with impressive data providing empirical evidence to show that we as a species have been hardwired to operate from a foundation of happiness and well-being (Happily Ever After…Right Now, prologue xxx). All we have to do to create that possibility for ourselves is to to focus on training the area of our brain already blueprinted to strengthen our happiness potential. This region is called the Anterior Cingulate Cortex (ACC). It governs thinking and emotion and also has been shown to support us in having more empathic responses, which evoke feelings of loving compassion, heightened social awareness, and increased sensitivity to the moment.

The ACC’s job is to utilize a specific neuron unique to humans. This neuron is stimulated to increase in supply when a positive or neutral response eclipses a negative reaction to an emotional trigger —even if it is just taking a breath or two. The stock continues to multiply with every nanosecond you choose not to fight (or flee). As these “happy,” calming neurons develop momentum they can eventually provide enough gusto to balance out the effect of the unruly cascade of neurochemicals designed for your survival, originating from a different region in your head. As this development is unfolding, your brain states are being altered by a process called neuroplasticity. Therefore, you can run your own programs rather than having your programs run you. It just takes some determination. And, your rising band of will power, will definitely support you in the process of this peace-making between the back (reptile) and the front (reason) of your head.

We are fundamentally primates with an endless supply of distractions and possible triggers. We will lose the keys, forget people’s names, and falsely perceive situations by making assumptions based on our emotional sensitivity, all of which is repeatedly re-enforced by any current triggers. Science now demonstrates that until we decide to clear the festering wounds of yesteryear by being available to resolve and balance whatever is out of whack right now, this dilemma will persist.

We are each likely a product of survival strategies, which hide out in our unconscious psyche. These habituated ways of coping most always originate from woundedness—something hurt us and we developed tactics to protect ourselves from future, similar pain. Conditioned beliefs, actually begin to form patterns of behavior that take root in our subconscious data-bank, where ninety-five percent of our actions, words, and deeds live (according to Bruce Lipton, Cellular Biologist). Until it is held in check, this subterranean belief system will repeatedly distort your reality through the lens of fear and insufficiency because it “thinks” it has to do this in order to keep you alive.

“All the greatest and most important problems of life are fundamentally insoluble…They can never be solved, but only outgrown. This outgrowing proved on further investigation to require a new level of consciousness. Some higher or wider interest appeared on the person’s horizon, and through this broadening of his or her outlook the insoluble problem lost its urgency. It was not solved logically in its own terms but faded when confronted with a new and stronger life urge”—Carl Gustov Jung.

And so how can we upgrade our operating system to a “broadened outlook” where seemingly “insoluble problems” and life dramas will “lose their urgency?” Abraham Maslow, famed humanistic psychologist, referred to this state of expanded consciousness, as “self-actualization” where we are operating on all cylinders, fortified by the stronger life urge that strengthens our most optimal potential (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-actualization).

Of course, in order to fully support this “life urge” you have to be willing to keep unraveling the complicated system that responds to your upsets. Therefore, when you are triggered by a high intensity event, it is vital that you get some distance between you and what happened before your conscious mind is hijacked by the limbic system, “whose” agenda it is to repeatedly override your ability to reason. By strengthening your consciousness, you are countering your deeply entrenched conditioning to survive. You are programming your brain to recognize that the defensiveness, which your initial reaction will evoke, is likely going to cause the very harm you are trying to prevent. Here is an example:

You are at a traffic light turning left. You are late to an appointment. You have patiently awaited your turn. The moment has arrived. You make your move. Out of nowhere, a little red corvette cuts in front of you. You snap and yell obscenities at the driver, only to find just following the release of your expletive, that the one behind the wheel is your boss.

Admittedly, stopping to take a breath under such circumstances is not easy work, though clearly it would have been the better choice in this scenario. It is now being proven scientifically that your conscious choices will not only improve your interactions with others, but will also liberate your biology to such a degree that you can eventually emancipate yourself from suffering altogether.

What are the tools that will support you in the process of actuating the grandest version of yourself? You can start by taking a breath the next time you are triggered, and then another. If you do not already have a practice, consider beginning some type of formal meditation (mental focus). Here is a link to support you in getting started: http://zenhabits.net/meditation-for-beginners-20-practical-tips-for-quieting-the-mind/ . In addition, please find more information here on the effects of meditation regarding the anterior cingulate cortex.

http://www.wakehealth.edu/News-Releases/2013/Anxious_Activate_Your_Anterior_Cingulate_Cortex_With_a_Little_Meditation.htm

Meanwhile, my esteemed colleague, Dr. Jean Watson, and I will be offering a full day workshop on in depth methods for changing your biological destiny (briefly discussed here) with specific practices. This promises to be a life changing event. Click here for more information and to register.

Hope to see you there!

Believing in you!

Luann

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Grateful for You

Thankful for the Gift of Sight

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As we approach the Thanksgiving Holiday, I wanted to let you know of my feelings of gratitude for all of you. I so appreciate the many comments and responses to our gems and cannot tell you how inspiring each and every one of you is in my life.

One of you wrote this to me after my last gem:

 “I am deeply thankful that neuroscience now shows us the positive brain evidence, that supports choice versus fight or flight and to nurture self is the key to our new evolution as human BEINGS.”

I loved this woman’s insights reminding me that many of you “out there,” are making note, like those of us on the Happily team, that we have a plethora of choices on how we can decide to respond to life.

The thesis of Happily Ever After…Right Now is that happiness is an internal job, though the discovery process can be easily log jammed by beliefs and triggers that can certainly “trip-wire” our happiness potential. The work and research that we do on the Happily team is all about helping you to negotiate those log jams and the experiences that result when we do get tripped up by our experiences of people, places, circumstances, or events.

For those of you who have read and are familiar with the material in the book, you know that it is divided into three parts:

  • Education: To offer a fundamental historical and scientific perspective on why you repeat certain behavioral patterns, even if they don’t serve you or your growth
  • Awareness: To support you in being aware of what you are doing, so that you can strengthen the behaviors of your choosing
  • Transformation: to offer tools for completely transcending your outdated ways of operating while moving fully into your Happily Ever After…Right Now.” (page xl prologue)

As a gift to you and those you love or would like to reach out to, I am offering the kindle version of Happily at a very special price for a limited time offer.

November 29 thru December 5, 2013:
99 cents!

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Click here to take advantage of this offer.

Enjoy! Meanwhile, remember I am grateful for you!

Love,

Luann


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The Power of Emotions Over Happiness

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The July 15, 2013 issue of Time Magazine introduced a series of articles on “happiness,” and emphasized a point, which I made in my recent Huffington Post article (excerpt below) : “Being distracted (by emotional charges, thoughts, etc.) blunts responses in the brain (Time,  pp. 30).” That’s a pretty radical statement! Your thoughts and emotional charges will blunt responses in the brain? Yes, they will.

“Here is a key point that I have learned from devoting much of my professional life to studying the effects of human emotions. The raw, impulsive ones, like fear, excessive worry, and anger will absolutely hi-jack happiness and well being—every single time. And, once these emotions take hold, they can have a fierce grip. So, if we are going to make any progress toward maintaining peace of mind (the foundation for inner joy), we have to be aware of the triggers for “negative emotions.” Once they register in the primal part of your brain, which is where they originate, they will relentlessly travel the highways in your head with a single focus—to snuff out all of the good stuff. Why? Because that is what they have been “wired” to do. Will they be successful? Yes (until you learn to interrupt them), since they have been conditioned to respond this way for a zillion years.  You and I in our current level of evolution are still programmed to react to their messages. We have inherited this phenomenon from our ancestors, who needed to stay alert in order to keep from getting killed (and “alert” did not allow for peace, balance, and joy).

If you don’t believe me (that you are inclined to operate like the clan- of-the- cave-bear-tribe), do a little experiment. I suspect that one of the easiest places to practice is in your car. Any scenario will do, but let’s pick one. You have sat patiently (you think) awaiting a coveted parking space while High Maintenance Molly puts on her lipstick, and checks her iPhone. Finally, she exits the scene. Out of flipping nowhere, Mr. Big Bad Boy suddenly swerves into “your” place in his ridiculously gigantic, SUV, replete with deafening rap music. He then brings his unnecessarily large gas sucking vehicle to a screeching halt (right in front of your blazing eyeballs) and saunters away with a surly swagger never once acknowledging you and your pain. Now then, whether or not you blow your horn and call him a f+#%ing a*&%$#e is not the point. What does matter is that more than likely your red-hot-blood has reached the boiling point. Where is your compassion? Where is your heart? Maybe his need for the space is more urgent than yours—like his throat is closing after eating peanuts or something.  If I am correct in my speculation, you are probably not going to give him the benefit of the doubt here. And if that is the case your heart just got overruled by your emotional brain. There is no reasoning with this region, once it gets its hold on you.”

How can you interrupt the tendency for the “emotional hi-jacking phenomenon” to play out in your world? Mental focus (meditation, yoga, a brain break, etc.). More on this next week.  Stay tuned!

Believing in you!

Love,

Luann

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PS) I’d like to ask a very special favor of those of you who’ve read my book “Happily Ever After Right Now.” If you found the book to be informative and helpful in your journey, would you be so kind as to post a review of the book? Here is a link to my Amazon page for you to do so:  http://www.amazon.com/Luann-Robinson-Hull/e/B00AQIQ3B6/, and here is the GoodReads page for the book: http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11522606-happily-ever-after-right-now.  Thank you, from the bottom of my heart!

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GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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It’s High Time to Reprogram Our Brains

Following up on my last article “Soul Sister (or Brother)” — In order to succeed in our quest to tune into our own heart and soul and loving ourselves, we have to be committed.

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We must be vigilant around any negative thoughts that are self directed, and turn these thoughts into loving kindness. Notice how deeply conditioned negativity is. Here is a simple example. Suppose you are in school and you just have done poorly on a test (by your standards). What is your first inclination? Is it to tell yourself how wonderful you are for even trying to do your best on the test (compassion)? Is it to find all of the ways that you have been successful in this situation (loving kindness)? Or are you more inclined to belittle and berate yourself for not measuring up, for not being good enough (self-degradation)? Unless we have been trained to the contrary, when we experience a perceived failure, we will jump to feelings of shame and disgrace almost immediately, because of our conditioning. It won’t even occur to us to look at the positive aspects of the situation. And each time we tell ourselves how wrong we are, or how miserably we have fallen short, guess what happens in our computer brain? It records and stores the data as unsuccessful and then the idea of failure gets triggered every time we think we haven’t measured up.

It’s high time for our brains to be programmed with new information. Catch yourself before you go into the dramatic negative (or if you have already slipped into that mode, wake up now and stop what you are doing). Try having a list available for referencing, either in your head or on hard copy, of all the ways that you are utterly Magnificent — even if it is how you floss your teeth. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you believe it. Just find everything possible to love about yourself. Every single person on the planet has something extraordinary to offer. And not bringing forward whatever that is, which of course, cannot be done in the absence of self-love, is the root of all misery and suffering. So, start practicing how to love yourself, bunions, warts and all.

Love,

Luann

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PS) Please visit my latest article on the Huffington Post: “Finding Your Happiness Zone” and post a comment, hit the Facebook “like” and all of that!  I’d love your support there!  Thank you!

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For a few weeks only “Happily Ever After Right Now” will be available on Kindle at the very special, affordable price of $2.99. If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC and pic up your copyfor only $2.99!

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You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

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Excerpt from page 198-199 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Soul Sister (or Brother)

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If we really want to experience true intimacy with a partner, then we have to be willing to tune into our very own heart and soul. What is the secret to finding happiness, the right partner, the right career, enough money, better looks, more energy and the greater health? You must begin by making a commitment to loving yourself. The soul sister/brother that lives in your essence will never leave or forsake youMarry him/her first (or marry “him/her” now if you are already “actually” married). Go and buy yourself a simple little eternity ring. Slip it on your finger and make a personal pledge to begin (or continue) learning how to provide for yourself absolutely everything that you think (or thought) you would require from someone else in a conscious, loving relationship. Every time you look at the ring, be reminded of what it symbolizes: a lasting commitment to you.

What will it take to recruit all of the love, compassion, forgiveness, understanding, support, affirmation, and patience you can muster on a daily (hourly) basis and then give it to yourself? For many of us, this is an unfair inquiry. We have been trained to believe that self-love is selfish. It isn’t. Understand that if you cannot fully love and accept yourself, it will be impossible for others to love and accept you. The magnitude of love that exists within your very own being is infinite. And if we are not experiencing this love in bountiful supply, then we have to look inside and ask ourselves what it is that is keeping the lid on. Maybe we will never know. It doesn’t matter. What does matter is your willingness to discover in yourself everything that you may have been waiting for someone else to provide.

Embark on that journey of self-discovery and self-love.

Love,

Luann

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For a few weeks only “Happily Ever After Right Now” will be available on Kindle at the very special, affordable price of $2.99. If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC and pic up your copy for only $2.99!

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to reading them in context and in their entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

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Excerpt from page 197-198 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Celebrating Summer!

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Our alpine ice-land is finally beginning to melt after a pretty persistent winter (see the snowy peaks below).

And in the spirit of celebrating the season, I am offering the e-book version of Happily Ever After…Right Now at a special price for the summer months.

Here is what Deb Scott, host of The Best People We Know radio show said about Happily: 

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“… I wish I had this book 20 years ago. Don’t wait – get it – read it – give it – as a gift to yourself or anyone you love. I think this would be a fabulous book club read as well. A new classic. – Deb Scott

I invite you to take advantage of my SUMMER SPECIAL! Refocus your energy, learn how to be happy right now, and gain a healthy perspective abot yourself and your approach to relationships!

If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC and pic up a copy of for only $2.99 (available for a limited time)!

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Happy reading!

Love,

Luann

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These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to reading them in context and in their entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

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Excerpt from page 199-200 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Love Lamp

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Realize that you have an inexhaustible inner light that glows even in your darkest moments. This light is eternal. It can never be extinguished. And the only way for you to actually experience its full, radiant brilliance is to embrace all of those attributes in yourself that you love, and then accept the qualities that you would rather not acknowledge. How is this possible? By opening our hearts and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, over and over again, eventually, what you will come to realize, as you proceed with such a practice, is that all of your suffering is actually just a result of your perceptions, having nothing whatsoever to do with facts.

As you face your fears, insecurities, dreads, dangers, and heartaches, you are actually providing direct access to the heart-voice that will never forsake or abandon you. It is always available to rescue you from your imagined dread of being deserted, neglected, and alone. Eventually, if you persist in facing all that scares you (within reason that is — you don’t have to jump off the cliff to prove your point here), you will become immunized from your fears. Then it won’t matter to you whether Mr. or Ms. Wonderful ever shows up (or sticks around if s/he is already there). In becoming your own best advocate, no longer driven by your insecurities, you realize that there is only one reason to be in a relationship — to enhance who you are, spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, and physically — and then to contribute your gifts so that the beloved has the opportunity to grow and expand as well.

In your increasing state of awareness, you realize that your happiness comes from sharing all of that which has been contained in you. You want others to experience a greater abundance of love and joy because you are present in their lives. And as you continue opening your heart, you can do so from a place of power, using love as your anchor. You give for the joy of giving without expectation of what you will receive in return. Because you already know you will always be protected and taken care of. The thought of scarcity no longer exists in your consciousness. You are opening to your happily ever after… right now.

You also no longer feel the need to control, dominate, limit, restrict, or hinder yourself (or another) in any way. Rather, you nurture in yourself everything that will bring forward your most creative expression in whatever form it may show up. Your very presence in the world serves as a constant source of enrichment and blessing, bringing happiness and joy to all you meet. You do not allow yourself to go into competition or judgment because you realize that these qualities produce suffering and feelings of insufficiency. You are constantly opening to a state of freedom as you seek to balance all that will assist you in accessing the best combination of everything that represents the truth of who you are. Naturally, the voice of trepidation can compromise this balance. Even so, you have awakened to the perfect immunization from fear’s influence as you continue to remember that your own inner light is the love lamp that will shine away your anxious imagination.

Let your light shine, baby!

Love,

Luann

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These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to reading them in context and in their entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

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Contact me by visiting my websites: Luann Robinson Hull and Happily Ever After Right Now

Excerpt from page 199-200 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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