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Balancing Your Emotions

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Last week we talked about the “power of emotions over happiness,” and posed the question, “How can you interrupt the tendency for the “emotional hi-jacking phenomenon” to play out in your world?”

Here are some insights from Joseph LeDoux, Professor of Science in the Center for Neural Sciences at New York University. “…we are evolution in progress… As things now stand, the amygdala (which governs your fight or flight response to perceived or imagined fear  http://bigthink.com/videos/the-amygdala-in-5-minutes) has a greater influence on the cortex (reasoning centers of the brain) than the cortex has on the amygdala, allowing emotional arousal (fight or flight) to dominate and control thinking. Throughout the mammals, pathways from the amygdala to the cortex overshadow the pathways from the cortex to the amygdala. Although thoughts can easily trigger emotions (by activating the amygdala), we are not very effective at willfully turning off emotions (by deactivating the amygdala). Telling yourself that you should not be anxious or depressed does not help much.”

LeDoux goes on to say that, “The increased connectivity between the amygdala and the cortex involves fibers going from the cortex to the amygdala as well as from the amygdala to the cortex. If these nerve pathways strike a balance, it is possible that the struggle between thought and emotion may ultimately be resolved, not by the dominance of emotional centers by cortical cognitions, but by a more harmonious integration of reason and passion. With increased connectivity between the cortex and amygdala, cognition and emotion might begin to work together rather than separately.”—Joseph LeDoux, The Emotional Brain, pp.303)

And so how do we participate in creating such a “balance?” Andrew Newberg, Professor of Psychiatry and Director for the Center for Integrated Study of Spirituality and the Neurosciences at The University of Pennsylvania says, “…the anterior cingulate, which processes social awareness, intuition, and empathy, contains a unique neuron that only humans and a few primates have. These neurons have only been around for about fifteen million years whereas the amygdala has been happily generating neurons for 450 million years. Spiritual practices strengthen the anterior cingulate, and when this happens, activity in the amygdala slows down….When you intensely and consistently focus on your spiritual values and goals, you increase the blood flow to your frontal lobes and anterior cingulate, which causes the activity in emotional centers of the brain to decrease. Conscious attention is the key…”—Andrew Newberg, M.D. How God Changes the Brain, pp.17 and 20.

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Let’s make a concerted effort this week to slow down what can be an overpowering effect of the emotions and the fight or flight mechanism of the brain.

How can we do that? Take a few moments each day to simply quiet your thoughts. Clear your head and breathe. Remind yourself that you are worth the time and attention it will take for you to refresh/reset your brain to support you in better coping with your busy world. Stay tuned for next week’s post with practices and techniques.

Believing in you!

Love,

Luann

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I am pleased to co-sponsor this exciting evening!

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Inspired Atop Aspen Mountain

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I recorded a one-minute video Gem from inside the gondola on my way down from Aspen Mountain a couple of weeks ago, and I’d love to share it with you here.

I was inspired as I reflected that I’d been hiking/climbing up Aspen Mountain for over eleven years. That is a long time. And yet, when I started I didn’t think I could do it. I never thought I could come close to successfully climbing that mountain, and yet I do it now on a regular basis.

The basic premise?

You can accomplish anything you put your mind to.

How? I offer a quick tip in this very short video.

I invite you to watch the one-minute video by clicking here, or if you are reading this online on the blog, you can watch it on the site.

Have a wonderful day!

Love,

Luann

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Soul Sister (or Brother)

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If we really want to experience true intimacy with a partner, then we have to be willing to tune into our very own heart and soul. What is the secret to finding happiness, the right partner, the right career, enough money, better looks, more energy and the greater health? You must begin by making a commitment to loving yourself. The soul sister/brother that lives in your essence will never leave or forsake youMarry him/her first (or marry “him/her” now if you are already “actually” married). Go and buy yourself a simple little eternity ring. Slip it on your finger and make a personal pledge to begin (or continue) learning how to provide for yourself absolutely everything that you think (or thought) you would require from someone else in a conscious, loving relationship. Every time you look at the ring, be reminded of what it symbolizes: a lasting commitment to you.

What will it take to recruit all of the love, compassion, forgiveness, understanding, support, affirmation, and patience you can muster on a daily (hourly) basis and then give it to yourself? For many of us, this is an unfair inquiry. We have been trained to believe that self-love is selfish. It isn’t. Understand that if you cannot fully love and accept yourself, it will be impossible for others to love and accept you. The magnitude of love that exists within your very own being is infinite. And if we are not experiencing this love in bountiful supply, then we have to look inside and ask ourselves what it is that is keeping the lid on. Maybe we will never know. It doesn’t matter. What does matter is your willingness to discover in yourself everything that you may have been waiting for someone else to provide.

Embark on that journey of self-discovery and self-love.

Love,

Luann

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Excerpt from page 197-198 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Relationships: Re-Programming Ourselves as Women

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It is our ancient conditioning that keeps us stuck in old thought patterns and behaviors about love and relationships. So, then how can we emancipate ourselves from this conditioning’s grasp? The primal beliefs and thoughts etched into our consciousness can be automatically triggered by an event. Just like the enchantment that caused Sleeping Beauty to fall asleep when she pricked her finger on the spinning wheel at age sixteen, our old fearful spells kick in when we feel rejected or alone. We can dismantle the power of our ancient conditioning (which wants us to believe that we are sure prey for the lurking monsters) by creating new beliefs and incantations of Entitlement.

The point is that we need to be committed to becoming aware of when a response to an event is not in balance or appropriate given the circumstances, and then take the necessary measures to bring ourselves back to center, back to sanity, back to wholeness. When we can quickly catch ourselves going into a spin, we have the chance to create a new reality, both inside and out. And then we have an opportunity to pop open the portal to an expanded, magical world. We just have to decide to do it.

But what about the longing? What about the yearning? What about when you are alone (that dreaded awful feeling) and everyone else has someone but you? Or, what about the disappointment you feel when you are with someone and he doesn’t measure up to your expectations? What about when he is a “jerk” and says things that hurt or dishonor you? What about the feelings you experience when he forgets to call? Why doesn’t he send you flowers? Why doesn’t he make you feel better about who you are, or why can’t you find someone who can?

Letting go of the myth of Prince Charming can be an arduous process, burdened by what could be a stubborn reluctance to surrender the dream and finally get a grip on reality. Shifting your consciousness involves a steady, centered commitment toward waking up from our Sleeping Beauty dream state by focusing on the Internal, rather than the external world. In negotiating this mysterious journey toward the inner landscape, you must map out what can feel like uncharted territory. Like Hansel and Gretel, who found their way out of the forest by leaving a trail of white stones that glowed in the moonlight, we too have a trail of wisdom to help us untangle from the diabolical twists and turns that are the forests of our minds. But in order to actually see the truth, we have to be looking. Then, once we have made our discoveries, we must be willing to engage all of the courage, discipline, detachment, obedience and surrender that we can muster in order to follow where we are guided on this, our very own moonlight path. Feelings of discomfort — often intense — will most likely accompany the pilgrimage. Going deeply into all that we do not want to feel is part of the process. We cannot keep stuffing away our discomfort. Sooner or later those feelings will emerge in one way or another. We might as well address them now, before they brew, bubble and finally explode.

The only way we can discover true happiness is to be thorough in our investigation of self. It is here that we can begin to awaken the sleepy, sluggish dreamer, who may have been operating on autopilot. As we take the wheel into our own hands, we are primed for uncovering the passions inherent in our being that every Queen knows is the secret to happily ever after…right now. 

Love,

Luann

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Above excerpt variation was taken from my book “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” pp. 17-18

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Letting Go of the Old, Inviting the New

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Let go of the old so you can completely take hold of the new. -Joyce Meyers (Photo credit: deeplifequotes)

Is it possible that the archetype of need has been conditioned and etched into the trenches of our consciousness from the start of our existence? Even though we live in the twenty-first century, we are still influenced by our primal origins. Renowned Psychologist Carl Gustav Jung (Stevens, 1982) was a powerful pathfinder with his careful examination of the mazes of stories that appear to run our lives. He delved into meaning and symbols and explored how these are conveyed both individually and collectively through tales that weave themselves into the collective psyche and become lodged as cultural norms, producing dictums for our shared model of reality.

Jung believed that human nature is strongly influenced by stories and myths that, when sufficiently interesting to large groups of people, become patterned into the shared human psyche. He described theses patterns as archetypes, or mental images, endowed with universal intelligence. These energetically imprinted ideas are etched into our individual and collective consciousness and definitely have an impact on our day-to-day lives. They begin in the deepest archives of our ancestry and continue to unfold as we gather stories and ideas about who we think we are and what it is that we believe we are supposed to be doing while traveling this adventuresome journey together on planet earth. When a story is repeatedly shared and believed, it gathers momentum and eventually becomes a powerful force in driving our behaviors (more on that in the prologue of the book “Happily Ever After”). One myth that has endured since the time of the Brute and the Babe is this: A woman should spend her time seeking and finding the perfect Prince Charming to protect and take care of her. When (and only when) she does, and succeeds according to those rules, everything will be okay.

Is it possible that, despite our advances over time, the predominant female prototype is based on insufficiency and dependency — on women needing to partner in order to survive? If so, no wonder we are traveling in unknown territory when we attempt to individuate from these outdated thought forms. This is what we are up against: powerful ancient beliefs that lurk in the shadows of our minds, like trolls or monsters. They are as dangerous as any wicked witch, cruel stepmother, or disgruntled fairy. It’s time to diminish their hold over us and invite new and more powerful ideas to inspire and guide us.

Love,

Luann

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What You Seek Already Exists

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When we focus on and trust our insights and inspirations (which are the voices that guide us to fulfilling our passions and dreams), the urgent need to obtain security in another or outside of us will begin to melt away and eventually disappear. Widows who have learned to become dependent on their husbands, for example, often discover a multitude of inner strength, courage, and wisdom following the death of their spouse. The same is true of women who have broken up with their partners. As they move through the stages of grief, they are frequently astounded by the sense of power and delight that accompanies the process of developing their independence.

Sara made some important discoveries about herself while spending almost an entire year without a significant other. Even though she missed having a boyfriend at times, she realized that there were aspects about being single that brought her absolute joy. Her discoveries included learning about her dining preferences, what movies she liked, and when she wanted to stay home to enjoy a quiet evening alone. A few months into the experience, she began to notice a sense of fulfillment and joy that was unprecedented in her life. During this time frame, her career soared, and several friendships with both women and men flourished. When she started a relationship with Tim, whom she now describes as “the love of her life,” she was ready to meet him with her own ideas, strengths and hopes.

While single, Sara had chosen to create a rich, full life for herself and was then prepared to start a relationship with someone who could compliment her discoveries and share the happiness she was already experiencing. She recently commented, “I really unraveled some of my narrow views on what I thought it took to be happy, like thinking that it was impossible without a boyfriend. Eventually, I stopped waiting for someone else to complete me. That is when Tim showed up. Now, I am becoming more whole day-by-day, and even though I love and adore Tim, I know that he is not the answer to my happiness. I am.”

Unity Minister Susan Burnett-Hampson tells of the break-up of a significant relationship before she met her husband, Stan. “I had strong feelings for this man, and as we were parting, I realized that, the love is in me. It is mine. It will go with me. And this will attract a similarly high level of love. It may sound obvious, but the message this time was more profound. I really got it.” Susan’s connection and subsequent loss helped her realize that she was the source of true love. That love moved within her, wherever she was. Eventually, she took that love with her into a happy and fulfilling marriage to Stan.

In recognizing that the buck stops with us and that there is no one to blame for feelings of despair or credit with our happiness (except ourselves), we are creating the true foundation for lasting joy. Instead of focusing on what we can get somewhere else, or who we can blame if it doesn’t happen, let us be willing to become immersed in the delight of our own being. And when we decide to do so, no longer are we bothered with the fading fears and outdated messages of need and want. Eventually, our Royal Essence will emerge as our only reality, and we will then be emancipated from the prison of lack and insufficiency.

Love,

Luann

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Waking Into Your Life

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Talakona Waterfall, Chittoor (Photo credit: VinothChandar)

Waking Into Your Life (Overcoming Our Addiction to Love)

Below is an excerpt from my book, Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating! It is taken from chapter 5: Power: Give Up Your Addiction to Love. This section is titled, Examining Your Fear and Waking Into Your Life.

When your entire identity is invested in shielding and protecting yourself from the indeterminate future, you remain behind the curve of your life. What would it take to drop everything that keeps you bound to the story of fear? Is it possible that, if you let go of all that you think you need to protect yourself from harm’s way, that you might eventually emancipate yourself from your non-existent demons? When you pay attention, your Powerful, Sovereign nature comes to the fore, and you emerge to claim the full, radiant being that you are. Granted, it takes concentration and practice to shut off our individual and collective schizophrenia — to quiet the voices that are not our own. They are fierce, and they are loud. Nonetheless, when we claim our Power, no pathology can have any influence over us whatsoever. As we continue to identify with the one authentic voice that answers the call of our heart’s true longing, the devils of fear and defeat retreat into the shadows and eventually evaporate. 

The alternative to addiction [in this context, addiction to love], then, is to turn and face the monsters that stalk us, realize that they are frauds, and eventually watch them melt away for good. As we continue the practice of moving toward the things that scare us rather than retreating or running the other way, we will be released from the bondage of fear forever. And when we create these kinds of changes in ourselves, we are not only making our individual contribution — we are endowing all of humanity. The willingness to go courageously into the eye of the storm (our panic) when everything seems scary, strange, and unfamiliar — takes incredible courage. Nonetheless, the result is transformational.  When we are willing to actually stand in the proverbial fire, the patterns that have kept us stuck and immobilized will continue to burn off and fade away until they eventually have no further influence over our lives. And then like the Phoenix, we will rise up from the ashes, fully renovated and ready to take flight.

Go on. You can do it. Fly.

Love,

Luann

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