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Thoughts to Contemplate by Dr. Luann Robinson Hull


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The Power of Emotions Over Happiness

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The July 15, 2013 issue of Time Magazine introduced a series of articles on “happiness,” and emphasized a point, which I made in my recent Huffington Post article (excerpt below) : “Being distracted (by emotional charges, thoughts, etc.) blunts responses in the brain (Time,  pp. 30).” That’s a pretty radical statement! Your thoughts and emotional charges will blunt responses in the brain? Yes, they will.

“Here is a key point that I have learned from devoting much of my professional life to studying the effects of human emotions. The raw, impulsive ones, like fear, excessive worry, and anger will absolutely hi-jack happiness and well being—every single time. And, once these emotions take hold, they can have a fierce grip. So, if we are going to make any progress toward maintaining peace of mind (the foundation for inner joy), we have to be aware of the triggers for “negative emotions.” Once they register in the primal part of your brain, which is where they originate, they will relentlessly travel the highways in your head with a single focus—to snuff out all of the good stuff. Why? Because that is what they have been “wired” to do. Will they be successful? Yes (until you learn to interrupt them), since they have been conditioned to respond this way for a zillion years.  You and I in our current level of evolution are still programmed to react to their messages. We have inherited this phenomenon from our ancestors, who needed to stay alert in order to keep from getting killed (and “alert” did not allow for peace, balance, and joy).

If you don’t believe me (that you are inclined to operate like the clan- of-the- cave-bear-tribe), do a little experiment. I suspect that one of the easiest places to practice is in your car. Any scenario will do, but let’s pick one. You have sat patiently (you think) awaiting a coveted parking space while High Maintenance Molly puts on her lipstick, and checks her iPhone. Finally, she exits the scene. Out of flipping nowhere, Mr. Big Bad Boy suddenly swerves into “your” place in his ridiculously gigantic, SUV, replete with deafening rap music. He then brings his unnecessarily large gas sucking vehicle to a screeching halt (right in front of your blazing eyeballs) and saunters away with a surly swagger never once acknowledging you and your pain. Now then, whether or not you blow your horn and call him a f+#%ing a*&%$#e is not the point. What does matter is that more than likely your red-hot-blood has reached the boiling point. Where is your compassion? Where is your heart? Maybe his need for the space is more urgent than yours—like his throat is closing after eating peanuts or something.  If I am correct in my speculation, you are probably not going to give him the benefit of the doubt here. And if that is the case your heart just got overruled by your emotional brain. There is no reasoning with this region, once it gets its hold on you.”

How can you interrupt the tendency for the “emotional hi-jacking phenomenon” to play out in your world? Mental focus (meditation, yoga, a brain break, etc.). More on this next week.  Stay tuned!

Believing in you!

Love,

Luann

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PS) I’d like to ask a very special favor of those of you who’ve read my book “Happily Ever After Right Now.” If you found the book to be informative and helpful in your journey, would you be so kind as to post a review of the book? Here is a link to my Amazon page for you to do so:  http://www.amazon.com/Luann-Robinson-Hull/e/B00AQIQ3B6/, and here is the GoodReads page for the book: http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11522606-happily-ever-after-right-now.  Thank you, from the bottom of my heart!

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GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Inspired Atop Aspen Mountain

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I recorded a one-minute video Gem from inside the gondola on my way down from Aspen Mountain a couple of weeks ago, and I’d love to share it with you here.

I was inspired as I reflected that I’d been hiking/climbing up Aspen Mountain for over eleven years. That is a long time. And yet, when I started I didn’t think I could do it. I never thought I could come close to successfully climbing that mountain, and yet I do it now on a regular basis.

The basic premise?

You can accomplish anything you put your mind to.

How? I offer a quick tip in this very short video.

I invite you to watch the one-minute video by clicking here, or if you are reading this online on the blog, you can watch it on the site.

Have a wonderful day!

Love,

Luann

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If you found this video gem inspiring or helpful, and if you have a Google, Gmail or YouTube account, I would love for you to join me there and subscribe to my YouTube channel. You can do that by clicking here.

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For a few weeks only “Happily Ever After Right Now” will be available on Kindle at the very special, affordable price of $2.99. If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC and pick up your copy for only $2.99!

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my author page, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for my articles. Click here to go to my author page. Thanks so much!

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These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to receiving the message in context and in its entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

SUBSCRIBE TO THESE GEMS  via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam).

FOLLOW ME:

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Happily Ever After is now on Google Plus! Please add us!

Contact me by visiting my websites: Luann Robinson Hull and Happily Ever After Right Now

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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The Look of Real Love

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Being aware of our need to change our conditioned responses is a good start in establishing healthy patterns in relationships. But awareness alone does not cause change. Change can only occur when you make a conscious decision to do whatever it takes to go boldly toward all that will help you to first become the love of your own life, prior to searching for love in other places. You have to be able to recognize real love by first experiencing it through a conscious commitment to loving yourself. And once you do, you will know from every awakening cell in your being that you don’t need someone else to provide what you already have. Then when a potential partner appears (or is already beside you), you will see him/her as someone significant in your life who will join you in extending and opening this love of yours — outward, upward and beyond.

Make the conscious decision to truly love yourself. You can do this.

Love,

Luann

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PS) Please visit my latest article on the Huffington Post: “Finding Your Happiness Zone” and post a comment, hit the Facebook “like” and all of that!  I’d love your support there!  Thank you!

Be sure to forward this to someone you love.

REPLY TO THIS POSTOther readers would love to hear your thoughts this article! Please post a comment or leave a reply here.

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SUMMER READING SPECIAL

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For a few weeks only “Happily Ever After Right Now” will be available on Kindle at the very special, affordable price of $2.99. If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC and pic up your copyfor only $2.99!

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to reading them in context and in their entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

FOLLOW ME:

    FB Like        

Twitter     FB        Videos    Google +

Happily Ever After is now on Google Plus! Please add us!

Contact me by visiting my websites: Luann Robinson Hull and Happily Ever After Right Now

Excerpt from page 197-198 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

Image Credit: http://ashadeofpen.wordpress.com/2013/05/14/finding-myself/


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It’s High Time to Reprogram Our Brains

Following up on my last article “Soul Sister (or Brother)” — In order to succeed in our quest to tune into our own heart and soul and loving ourselves, we have to be committed.

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We must be vigilant around any negative thoughts that are self directed, and turn these thoughts into loving kindness. Notice how deeply conditioned negativity is. Here is a simple example. Suppose you are in school and you just have done poorly on a test (by your standards). What is your first inclination? Is it to tell yourself how wonderful you are for even trying to do your best on the test (compassion)? Is it to find all of the ways that you have been successful in this situation (loving kindness)? Or are you more inclined to belittle and berate yourself for not measuring up, for not being good enough (self-degradation)? Unless we have been trained to the contrary, when we experience a perceived failure, we will jump to feelings of shame and disgrace almost immediately, because of our conditioning. It won’t even occur to us to look at the positive aspects of the situation. And each time we tell ourselves how wrong we are, or how miserably we have fallen short, guess what happens in our computer brain? It records and stores the data as unsuccessful and then the idea of failure gets triggered every time we think we haven’t measured up.

It’s high time for our brains to be programmed with new information. Catch yourself before you go into the dramatic negative (or if you have already slipped into that mode, wake up now and stop what you are doing). Try having a list available for referencing, either in your head or on hard copy, of all the ways that you are utterly Magnificent — even if it is how you floss your teeth. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you believe it. Just find everything possible to love about yourself. Every single person on the planet has something extraordinary to offer. And not bringing forward whatever that is, which of course, cannot be done in the absence of self-love, is the root of all misery and suffering. So, start practicing how to love yourself, bunions, warts and all.

Love,

Luann

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PS) Please visit my latest article on the Huffington Post: “Finding Your Happiness Zone” and post a comment, hit the Facebook “like” and all of that!  I’d love your support there!  Thank you!

Be sure to forward this to someone you love.

REPLY TO THIS POSTOther readers would love to hear your thoughts this article! Please post a comment or leave a reply here.

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SUMMER READING SPECIAL

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For a few weeks only “Happily Ever After Right Now” will be available on Kindle at the very special, affordable price of $2.99. If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC and pic up your copyfor only $2.99!

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

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These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to reading them in context and in their entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

FOLLOW ME:

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Happily Ever After is now on Google Plus! Please add us!

Contact me by visiting my websites: Luann Robinson Hull and Happily Ever After Right Now

Excerpt from page 198-199 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

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Soul Sister (or Brother)

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Soul  (Photo credit: Nomadize)

If we really want to experience true intimacy with a partner, then we have to be willing to tune into our very own heart and soul. What is the secret to finding happiness, the right partner, the right career, enough money, better looks, more energy and the greater health? You must begin by making a commitment to loving yourself. The soul sister/brother that lives in your essence will never leave or forsake youMarry him/her first (or marry “him/her” now if you are already “actually” married). Go and buy yourself a simple little eternity ring. Slip it on your finger and make a personal pledge to begin (or continue) learning how to provide for yourself absolutely everything that you think (or thought) you would require from someone else in a conscious, loving relationship. Every time you look at the ring, be reminded of what it symbolizes: a lasting commitment to you.

What will it take to recruit all of the love, compassion, forgiveness, understanding, support, affirmation, and patience you can muster on a daily (hourly) basis and then give it to yourself? For many of us, this is an unfair inquiry. We have been trained to believe that self-love is selfish. It isn’t. Understand that if you cannot fully love and accept yourself, it will be impossible for others to love and accept you. The magnitude of love that exists within your very own being is infinite. And if we are not experiencing this love in bountiful supply, then we have to look inside and ask ourselves what it is that is keeping the lid on. Maybe we will never know. It doesn’t matter. What does matter is your willingness to discover in yourself everything that you may have been waiting for someone else to provide.

Embark on that journey of self-discovery and self-love.

Love,

Luann

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Be sure to forward this to someone you love.

REPLY TO THIS POSTOther readers would love to hear your thoughts this article! Please post a comment or leave a reply here.

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dsc03294.jpgSUMMER READING SPECIAL

For a few weeks only “Happily Ever After Right Now” will be available on Kindle at the very special, affordable price of $2.99. If you don’t own a Kindle, you can get Kindle for Mac, or PC and pic up your copy for only $2.99!

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Join Me on the Huffington Post!

I’m thrilled to be published on the Huffington Post! I would love for you to take a look at my first post there, and if you’re inclined, it would be wonderful if you would click the Facebook “like” for the article, and write a comment. Click here to go to that article. Thanks so much!

————–

These posts may be a blessing to you, but they do not compare to reading them in context and in their entirety in the book!

You can find the book “Happily Ever After Right Now. Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!” here.

Register to receive my weekly gems via email by clicking HERE (you may unsubscribe at any time, and we never spam)

FOLLOW ME:

    FB Like        

Twitter     FB        Videos    Google +

Happily Ever After is now on Google Plus! Please add us!

Contact me by visiting my websites: Luann Robinson Hull and Happily Ever After Right Now

Excerpt from page 197-198 of my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!

GRATITUDE:

I want to extend a very special thanks and gratitude to Cindy and all of those on my wonderful “Happily” team who make these posts (as well as the emails and social media) possible, and make them come together in a beautiful way!  Without their dedication and help, I wouldn’t be here “blogging” or sharing information with you electronically!  I would still be writing on my yellow tablets!

Image Credit: http://crystalseed.ning.com/profiles/blogs/time-for-the-soul