“For a fully enlightened being, the difference between what is neurosis and what is wisdom is very hard to perceive, because somehow the energy underlying both is the same.” – Chodron (1991, p. 21)
Hope and fear are intimately connected. There are things we like and want to keep, and there are things we don’t like and want to get rid of. We are attached, and repelled; repelled and attached. It is easy to let go when we don’t want something anymore, but letting go of something that we still desire, or even crave on some level, is quite another matter. How can we come to know more intimately the feelings we “like” and the ones we “don’t like”? And is it possible that “the energy driving each (whether it is neurosis or wisdom) is the same (Chodron, 1991, p. 21)? If so, how can we come to make friends with our shadow nature that suffers in the starkness of lack and despair, and lives in a constant state of insufficiency? If we can’t get used to the idea of impermanence, can we somehow inch our way into becoming at least a little more familiar with it? Could we even bring ourselves at some point to make friends with the mystery that lies just beyond our awareness?
More often than not, you will find that if you actually can acknowledge that the darkness is somehow constantly lurking in the shadows, then, when it pops up to show its ugly head, you can shout “Boo!” In not taking the goblin or ghoul too seriously, you instantly break the spell it has had over you. You begin to lighten up. You notice how serious and somber you have been. In maintaining your narrow focus of solemn skepticism, you have skewed your perspective to favor the negative. In attempting to lighten up, you will find the chain of fear that has kept you locked in the virtual prison of limitation will be broken and eventually disappear.
And once you train yourself to be illuminated in every situation regardless of how it appears, you will need less and less effort to embody the spirit of truth — because it will just unfold naturally. And magical things will continue to happen — frequently. When we are contributing to the world from the essence of spirit that guides us directly toward potentiating the grandest version of ourselves, the natural response from the Universe is to give back abundantly. Give and receive, receive and give back. That is how it works. Such a process is an absolute guarantee.
I’ll Be in Boulder, CO on April 11th!
I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Conscious Leadership in Healthcare: How Caring for Others Begins With Emotional Intelligence and Self-Care with my friend and colleague Tara Sheahan, who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium here, if you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1.
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