Last week we began a new series, “New Year, New View, New Perspective” — a continuation of a series we did last year titled “Those Things That Trigger You Are a Gift.” To start off our series, our first step is “Assume Your Partner’s Behavior Mirrors Your Own.” Let’s jump in!
It is way too easy to get into the “he is a jerk” game (we’ll go with the male example from here on out to keep it fluid, but this piece is equally applicable for both male and females). When we become irritated, it takes courage to look at the situation from an objective point of view, but if you are willing to do so you might see what bothers him about you. If you can view the situation from his perspective without judging yourself, you are laying the foundation to take the relationship to a whole new level, whatever that may be. Be willing to really see what is going on. If you perceive your partner to be immature and still acting like a boy in some ways, ask yourself how you are still acting like a girl instead of a woman, a princess instead of a Queen. If he is bossy and controlling, ask yourself if it is possible that you might be acting out these traits in some way, even if they appear less pronounced or in a different form. If you want a commitment, for example, and he seems ambivalent, assume that, on some level, you feel ambivalent, too. When you are willing to look at the situation with a different perspective the results can be transformational, for you, for him, and for the relationship.
Give it a try. I’ll be thrilled to hear of your progress. Next week we’ll continue in this series with a brief, but important step: Watch for Familiar Patterns. I’m excited!
Now to segue a bit, I’d love to invite all of my East Coast friends, particularly in the Boston Area to come and meet me/see me on Saturday, January 19, 2013 at the New England Book Festival!
I’m honored to be a panelist at the festival where my book, “Happily Ever After Right Now” won an award, and discuss marketing approaches for authors. Here is the information, and you may go to the festival’s website for more details as well:
WHEN & WHERE: Saturday, January 19, 2013 from 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. at the Omni Parker House Hotel, 60 School Street in Boston, 02108.
11.am.-12:15 p.m. The Art of Marketing and Promotion – An examination of what it takes to get your book noticed in a crowded marketplace.
- Stephanie Blackman, Publisher, Riverhaven Books
- Katherine Mayfield, Author, “The Box of Daughter”
- Mollie Ostroski, Author/Publisher, “Duck Tape”
- Suzie Canale, Author, The Candy Roses of Cape Care
If you live in the area, I’d love to see you! Otherwise, keep me in your thoughts, and I’ll see you here, next week!
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Excerpt taken from page 119 of my book, “Happily Ever After… Right Now”
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